What Does This Mean?
Openly showing that you care about someone and are trying — texting back promptly, making plans, being consistent — as a deliberate rejection of the 'nonchalant' playing-it-cool dating norm.
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ABC News · original source ↗
EXPLAINER
Esther Perel · original source ↗
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REAL-WORLD EXAMPLE
"I'm done playing games, I'm doing chalance now, texting back right away and just being honest about liking someone."
LORE & ORIGIN
Coined as the direct opposite of 'nonchalance,' naming a counter-movement among daters tired of the emotional guardedness that dominated dating-app culture for years.
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